Rearranging Schedules + Haters

If there’s anything I’ve learned throughout Ironman training, it’s that you have to be willing to adjust your schedule…AND IT’S OKAY.

Case in point: this past weekend, I was a bridesmaid in a good friend’s wedding. The wedding was on Friday night…and I had a 6.5 hour bike + 50 minute run on the schedule for Saturday morning.

Now…I wanted to have fun at the wedding. I didn’t want to sit at a table all night and then leave early to go to bed. (So sue me!)

You can't NOT dance in a barn wedding. (Isn't this the most beautiful barn you've ever seen?)

You can’t NOT dance at a barn wedding. (Isn’t this the most beautiful barn you’ve ever seen?)

With that being said, there are a ton of events I would miss (or just be a little more lame during) in order to optimize my training…but not my best friend’s wedding. I had to do my bridesmaidly duties, right? Plus, I NEVER get to see my friends and family…much less see them all at the same time. We all live all over the country and it means a lot to me to be able to spend time with them.

Most colorful wedding ever!

Most colorful wedding ever! I’m in the blue!

So, I rearranged. I didn’t have to be back to work until Wednesday, so I did a bike workout on Saturday, my long run on Sunday, drove 16 HOURS back to NJ (all in one day) on Monday, and then completed my heavy training day on Tuesday. I feel a little guilty for taking three full rest days (one to drive to Iowa, one for the wedding, and one to drive back to Iowa), but those days were literally jam-packed with no wiggle room. (Don’t my gas station squats and lunges count for anything!?)

I’ve definitely learned that rest days are okay if you need them – it’s not the end of the world. (Gasp!!) There’s something to be said for a little R&R, right?

Wyatt knows alllllll about that.

Wyatt knows alllllll about that.

My run on Sunday was special because my Dad and Brendan rode their bikes alongside me the whole way. And running in Iowa is absolutely beautiful.

So much happiness in one collage!

So much happiness in one collage!

My ride on Tuesday involved two flat tires (my first!) a really ridiculous rash on my legs (it’s gross, but click here to see and tell me if this has happened to you…I’ve heard it could be from silicone in the shorts?! Help!), and basically no human contact for 6.5 hours, but I finished. The heat was the hardest part – especially on the run. Throughout the whole ride, I couldn’t wait to run… this has to be a good thing, right? I was definitely exhausted at the end of the day, but very proud to have finished. There were a few moments in there when I was doubting myself and trying to figure out ways to get out of this ridiculous Ironman thing, but after lamenting on Twitter, I received an outpouring of support from my lovely friends. One of the most inspirational tweets I received was this one:

Ali is super smart and always knows the right thing to say. Send her some love as she's fighting stupid Crohn's Disease!

Ali is super smart and always knows the right thing to say. Send her some love as she’s fighting stupid Crohn’s Disease!

For all the support you all have been giving me, I thank you. You seriously don’t know how much it means to me, and how much motivation you give me. I love you guys.

In other news, I also swam 2.4 miles for the first time this week. And I survived. Dare I say I actually enjoyed it?! (Well, as much as you can enjoy it while counting laps in your head over and over. No I still don’t have a watch that is waterproof.) It took me about an hour and a half…and I honestly wasn’t too tired. I felt fine. If I do that on raceday, I’ll still have 50 minutes until the swim cutoff. Phew!

Lastly, against my better judgement, I want to call attention to the first person (since I signed up last year) to basically call me an idiot for doing this. No one has discouraged me throughout this entire journey…until now. I wrote a guest post for MizFitOnline and amidst all of the positive support and well-wishes, I found this little gem:

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And then, in response to someone else’s comment:

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For the record, yes. All the money goes to the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society as soon as the donation is made, regardless of whether I finish or not.

Actually this reminds me of a conversation I had with one of my best friends, Monica, this weekend. As I was explaining about my Ironman journey to people who asked, I got a lot of “Wow, that’s crazy!” and “Why do you want to do that?!” comments…pretty normal. (I mean, training for an event of this distance is not “normal”. Even I know that!) So, Monica, after being around me for all of these convos, sweetly called me later on saying she was upset that people kept saying things like that. She wanted me to know  that she believed in me, and was wondering if it made me feel bad or discouraged to hear so much negativity.

My lovely little Moni!

My lovely little Moni!

Honestly, I didn’t even think of it like that. I expect people to think I’m crazy…but everyone usually ends the conversation with a “that’s so awesome” or “best of luck, I’ll be cheering for you”…anything along those lines. Not once did someone tell me, “Wow, I can’t believe you actually think you can do this, because you probably won’t be able to based on your experience”…which is essentially what Miss Cheryl is saying, in my eyes. I mean, I get that people sign up for things without being ready. Fine. And I get that you have to respect the Ironman distance – if she’s an Ironman, I’m sure she’s sensitive to people saying “I’m going to do an Ironman!” without knowing much about it. I GET IT. It’s hard. It’s a huge accomplishment and ALOT of work. It’s not something to scoff at.

But come on lady, I just want to finish.

You don’t know me or my full background. You don’t know what I’ve been doing for the past few years. You don’t know how mentally strong I am. You don’t know how much support I have. You don’t know the half of it. I doubt you’re saying these things because you care about my well-being. You’re not my parent.

And frankly, I’m not concerned with someone else’s version of “the truth”…as I learned in kindergarten from my pal Bambi, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” (Although I’m not being very nice right now am I? Oops!)

And that's all I have to say about that. See ya!

And that’s all I have to say about that. See ya!

LET THE HATERS HATE, Y’ALL!

End rant.

How do you deal with adversity? Are you more forgiving than I am? Do you find that people are more supportive or more skeptical of your dreams?

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15 Comments

  1. June 26, 2013 / 11:57 pm

    wow…the first exchange was one thing, but the comment on the comment was ridiculous. she is just trying to be a bitch.

    • June 30, 2013 / 9:06 am

      Agreed! When I saw the third one it set me off, haha.

  2. June 27, 2013 / 12:16 am

    Running in the Midwest is fun — I was in MN & WI last week, but didn’t make to Iowa. What a gorgeous wedding! People are always skeptical of how you choose to eat/workout. But I have to admit, I’m a lot more skeptical of those who just don’t do anything. Love the tweet from your friend!

    • June 30, 2013 / 9:08 am

      Isn’t is so great to be home?! I love going back to the Midwest…although you live in Colorado and I know it’s amazing there too. NYC is great, but I prefer the great outdoors :)

      I love how you compared the two (working out and those who don’t do anything) SO TRUE!!

  3. June 27, 2013 / 1:10 am

    Holy smokes!!!! I can’t believe that hater!! I know plenty of people who have ONLY done the Ironman…no other distance and they did just fine! Keep training hard! You will finish!! It will only be 9 my time by the time midnight rolls around in LP so I will be watching the finish line! If that doesn’t throw some fire under you…I don’t know what will!! :)
    Congrats on a long training day!! Only a few more of those to come!! Keep up the good work!!

    • June 30, 2013 / 9:09 am

      Thank you Leslie!! You’re so sweet – that totally lights a fire under me!! Apparently our taper starts soon soooo here we go!

  4. Kenny
    June 27, 2013 / 2:35 am

    Kara,

    Yes I know it’s late. I am a teacher who just went on summer break. I am allowed to be up late haha. Anyways, Cheryl got me fired up. If I could confront her I would talk to her in a stern voice and wave my pointer finger at her. (It’s pretty intimidating…..just ask Brendan) Then I started to feel bad for Cheryl because it must be hard to live such a negative life. It’s hard to believe she ever finished any endurance race with that attitude. So don’t believe anything her or any other downers say. From your posts I can tell you are doing awesome and will definitely finish! On top of that you have raised soooo much money, which to most people is way more important than any race. Maybe next year you can raise some money to buy Cheryl a new attitude! Keep working hard!

    -Kenny

    • June 30, 2013 / 9:13 am

      Hahaha Kenny this is the best comment ever. I only wish you could confront her! I know how intimidating you can when when you wave your pointer finger at people. It’s scary when teachers get mad!! :) But yes, agreed…you can choose to be positive or negative…and some people don’t realize that their negativity brings others down. No good! Thanks so much for the kind words!!

    • June 30, 2013 / 9:13 am

      Thanks Mary :) I’m definitely going for it!

  5. June 27, 2013 / 7:34 am

    I read something where HATERS stands for “Having Anger Toward Everyone Reaching Success” and that’s what that person’s comments remind me of. Yeah, you have a big goal but your goal isn’t to win or place, you just want to complete and raise money. Why can’t people get over that and let you live your life? Keep training hard and know that something will push you to the finish even beyond what you’ve trained for.

    It looks like you had a good time at the wedding! And rest days are definitely needed- sometimes I think it’s better to take a rest day than to do an easier run or something, just because it makes your next runs and workouts better.

    • June 30, 2013 / 9:15 am

      I LOVE THAT (the haters acronym)!! I think I read that on your blog once actually, haha! (I could be wrong…)

      Sometimes it’s hard to block out the negativity but all I can do is stay positive and trust in myself. With friends like you all, that’s not hard :) Thanks Amy!!

  6. June 27, 2013 / 7:47 am

    Well Cheryl just sounds like she has got her panties in a bunch over you doing this thang! I’m so glad you are positive and you will reach your goal!! Your training had been brutal but your sticking with it! :-) and your friend Monic sounds like a doll!! I love that she called you to say she believed you could do it!

    • June 30, 2013 / 9:16 am

      Haha sure does. I didn’t realize I would offend people! And yes, Monica is so awesome! :) Thanks Katie!!

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